In the continuation of the drama series, I discuss how amazingly quickly we can shift between roles on the triangle. It is SO CRAZY! We all have our favorite chair, our gateway into the drama. However, we don't stay there. We never stay there. Using several personal and other examples, I share with you just how quickly we can make ourselves sick on the cyclone of drama as we ping around from corner to corner. You'll want to get off! I promise!
Once in recovery, the unmanageability of our lives slows down, thankfully. Yet, there sometimes remains an element of drama in our relationships. We ask ourselves, why is this happening to me? why do I seem to attract these people into my life? What is going on? Find out why this is happening to you in this episode on the Drama Triangle!
Loss is hard. Grieving is hard. So many opinions, so many ideas, so many expectations to navigate. After attending the funeral for my sweet friends mother, my heart was so grateful for the things I've learned about grief. In this episode, I share some of the lessons grief has taught me recently and the hope I feel about the grieving process.
With guests Jackie P. and Jon T. from the Thanks for Sharing Podcast, we announce and disucss new opportunities for those looking to start dating in recovery. While there is a lot of support around those wanting to get sober, when you're ready to start dating, there are a lot of questions. Where do you start? What boundaries do you need? What are the stages of relationships? How do I do this in a healthy way?? That is what Dating in Recovery is all about! Jackie, Jon and I discuss some of these quesitons and give you things to look for when you're ready to start dating again! You can find our more about Dating in Recovery at: www.onelayerdeeper.com.
My mom has always told me: Amy, you have the grades you are willing to pay the price for. Amy, you have the spirituality you are willing to pay the price for. Amy, you have the piano skills you are willing to pay the price for. Everything we have in our lives are things we are paying a price for. We pay a price to live in active addiction. We pay a price to live in recovery. We pay a price to have the relationships we do. In this episode, I explore what it is you are paying the price for, and how you move to the next level of recovery you are looking for!
Telling our story is hard and scary. Publishing it for anyone to read is a whole different level. In this episode I interview Erica Garza, author of "Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction". Her new book tells about her experiences in her own life. You'll love hearing her story.
I think we've all been there.... the place where we have to start over, again. And we start asking ourselves - is it worth it? I've tried this before and couldn't make it work. Maybe I'm just broken beyond repair? Maybe I just can't get sober, stay sober, date, be successful, have a relationship, or any other number of things in our lives that we want. Why keep putting myself through this?? I feel that way right now. I hope by sharing my experience with you - and my willingness - you will also have the courage to try again.
When we grow up in dysfunctional systems, we learn to protect ourselves. One of those survival mechanisms is keeping ourselves small, invisible, unknown. At the same time, we often develop a hyper vigilance to thosearound us and feel like we know everything about them. Or we can go the opposite way--overexposing ourselves and being shameless in our interactions with others. Listen to Amy share her experiences with the courage and desire to be known and how we can do a little bit more of that in our own lives.
Our world is not linear. Yet, many times we think that is how it “should” be. We work through something, trauma, addiction, relationships, mother issues, or whatever it is, we feel some resolution around it, and we think that is over. Then weeks, months, or maybe even years later, something happens and here we are stuck back in the middle of it again. We say to ourselves – I worked through this already – why am I here again?? You’re here again because our world is not linear. Listen to Amy talk about her experiences with circling back and how we can use the principles of Non-Euclidean Geometry in our recovery.