After listening (really watching) two friends have a heated argument on Facebook, I started to really pay attention to my usage of the word "but".  I soon became aware of the problems this word was causing in my life.  As I've worked to elliminate the word "but" from my vocabulary I've learned the power of a new word.  The power of the word AND.  I'm excited to share that power with you!!

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Finding motivation and inspiration to stay in recovery is important.  Those sources change as our recovery journey changes.  Lately, as I've been working through grief and watching my mother slowing deteriorate, new motivation and inspiration has come from an unexpected source.  Listen as I share my current source of courage and bravery.

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February 25, 2017

Episode 086: All In Indicators

In episode 80, I asked the question, are you All In when it comes to recovery?  In episode 81 we discussed some of the distractors that prevent us from being all in.  After a long few weeks and a thorough self-evaluation, in this episode we discuss the 3 major indicators we can use to assess whether or not we are All In when it comes to recovery or any other major area of our life.

Announcements:

Worth Recovery has welcomed Shannon to our team who will be blogging her recovery journey with us.  You can view her thoughts at: www.worthrecovery.com/blog

Intentional Recovery: Healing Happens On Purpose - is happening in Seattle, WA this July!  More information and registration can be found at: www.worthrecovery.com/events

Action Items for Today:

Use the three indicators we discuss today to evaluate your own recovery.  

1.  Are you seeking appropriate accountability?

2.  Are you connecting and staying connected to your own emotions?

3.  Are you learning into the pain of your recovery so that you can fully heal?

 

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Recently, as I've tried to acknowledge my own reality, I've been surprised by the variety of responses I've received. Whether it's friends, family, people in recovery, people out of recovery, as I've acknowledged the reality around me, I've been told to not think about it, ignore it, stop blaming, stop playing the victim. Society really teaches us not to acknowledge the difficult things in our lives. We're told not to dwell on the negative and not to focus on the difficult things. Dr. Bessel A. van der Kolk tells us: "As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself... The critical issues is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage." (Found in the Book: The Body Keeps The Score) Until we acknowledge our own reality - the past and the present, we can't heal or change it. In this episode I share four reasons why we don't acknowledgement things in our lives and the power acknowledgement gives us.

Homework: Identify two things in your life that you need to acknowledge that you have been avoiding. Write them down and share them with at least one person.

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Sometimes we just miss our addiction.  We know that the relationships we had and the behaviors we engaged in are unhealthy and they aren't serving us.  However, they did serve a purpose in our life.  They helped us escape and numb out from the chaos and unmanageability of our lives.  Sometimes as we go through withdrawal and start to feel rather than escape, we miss those old relationships and behaviors.  Prompted by a conversation with a friend in recovery, I wanted to share one of the things I did to get past a particularly difficult relationship.  

Homework:  Identify one thing you need to get past in your life.  Maybe it is a relationship and maybe it is a behavior.  Start thinking about the positive and negative aspects of the relationship.  Write a letter you'll never send to help you complete that emotional connection and move past it.

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Continuing this series from Episode 078, Megan and I finish our discussion about our Help Wanted ads. Moving Megan across the country was a jumbled bag of emotions. It was so fun to spend that time with her, Scott and Bronx. It was so fun to be on the road and drive and see new places! It was so hard to leave her there and fly home alone. In this continuation of our interview, we discuss what makes our relationship work including, our likes and dislikes, our confidence in meeting our own needs, and in our relationship skills.

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If you have a success story you would like to share with the Worth Recovery community or a question you would like answered on the podcast, email me at amy@worthrecovery.com.

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Homework: Identify two characteristics of relationships that you need. Do you have those? How can you implement them better in your current relationships? If you need a new relationship, write your own help wanted ad and share it below!!

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I just celebrated by 41st birthday!! During the day, three seemingly small things added up to an amazing day! As I was reflecting on these things, I wanted to share them with you. I hope you can build the hope that I did from these events. It is definitely the small things in recovery that give us the greatest results!!

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Homework: What are three of your blessings today? Small things that maybe you aren't necessarily always noticing? By small and simple things, GREAT things happen!

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Continuing our discussion on being ALL IN, I share with you my big three distrator behaviors! These are behaviors that prevent me (and probably you) from being ALL IN in our recovery journeys. These behaviors sneak into our lives, they aren't always exactly apparent. They are hard to see and sometimes the behavior itself prevents us from getting the true reflection of what we are doing. If we aren't making the progress we want in recovery - if we aren't getting the traction we need - we have some distractor behaviors going on in our lives! Let's figure it out!

Distractor #1: Spreading Out The Truth
Distractor #2: Green Grass Syndrome
Distractor #3: The Implementation Dip

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Homework: List three of your major distraction behaviors that prevent you from being ALL IN in your recovery. Then share that list with one of your recovery partners! And share it with me below!!

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January 6, 2017

Episode 080: All In?

In this episode I share with you a recent revelation I have had about my life. I'm holding back. I'm not ALL IN! Of course, this isn't the case in all areas of my life - but it is in some significant places. This recent realization drove me to consider the areas of my life where I am ALL IN. One of those areas is my recovery. I am ALL IN with my recovery! Are you? Are the 1 in 18 that will stay long term in recovery?

Links mentioned in the episode:
12-Step Statistics
Does AA Really Work?
Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?
Dr. Patrick Carnes on Sex Addiction

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Register Here!

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Homework: Comment below and let me know where you are listening from and if you are committing to be ALL IN for your recovery!

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December 20, 2016

Episode 079: Exploring Consent

With all the recent media coverage on rape and rape culture, Amy explores the idea of consent with CSAT therapist Jackie Pack.  Jackie will be speaking and sharing her expertise at "Engaged In The Struggle," the upcoming Worth Recovery event in January.  Listen to this great interview about what consent really means and how we get it all wrong.  

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