Healing happens on purpose. In this episode, Amy shares the year she became intentional about her recovery. It is easy to float along in recovery, trying different things, dipping our toes into many options and moving on before we see results. It is also easy to keep doing things out of habit but not really evalutating to see if the action is having the intented impact. Learn how to be more intentional as well as more about our event in Seattle this summer.
So much of living in recovery is living in the in-between times: the time from where we were to where we want to be. Whether it's the space between denial and awareness, the space between addiction and sobriety, the space between feeling lost and feeling direction, these in-between times make up so much of our lives. These spaces are places of extreme, hope and despair, love and loss, forward and backward movement, pull and push. How do we live there? How do we find the courage and patience to stay in recovery during these times? In this episode, Amy talks about the three major lessons she has learned living in the in between and three tools that help you move forward!
So much of recovery is a healing process. Healing of mind, body, and spirit. The SA White Book tells us that healing has to come about in three areas of our lives - emotional healing, physical healing, and spiritual healing. I recently was able to prepare some thoughts for a women's retreat about spiritual healing. As I studied and prepared, so many things went through my head. In the next few episodes, I will take some time to share some of my own process of spiritual healing.
Everything in our physical world around us cycles. Weather, plants, and animals are just a few of the things that cycle. It makes sense then, that our own physical bodies would cycle as well. I'm not just talking about that time of the month, though I am including that. In this episode I share a bit about my own physical cycles and learning the importance of listening to our bodies.
- Begin tracking your monthly cycle and listening to the clues your body is giving you.
- Think bigger or smaller -- what other cycles do you go through physically and how are they effecting your life?
Music has been such a big part of my life. In our world we are surrounded by music. Are you using music intentionally in your recovery? In this episode I share the power music has had in my recovery and share several of the songs that have helped me stay sober. I'm excited to hear from you about how music has helped you and how you connect music to emotion.
- Eliminate some music from your library. In order for us to use music intentionally, we need to be careful about the music we consume. Find some music that needs to be eliminated from your library and do it today!
- Connect music to emotion. What is your primary emotion today? Find a song to connect to that emotion and help you express that emotion in your life.
- SHARE your emotion and song! Do it in the comments below or on Facebook or the Podbean app or iTunes - wherever you're listening to this - share with us your song!
After listening (really watching) two friends have a heated argument on Facebook, I started to really pay attention to my usage of the word "but". I soon became aware of the problems this word was causing in my life. As I've worked to elliminate the word "but" from my vocabulary I've learned the power of a new word. The power of the word AND. I'm excited to share that power with you!!
Finding motivation and inspiration to stay in recovery is important. Those sources change as our recovery journey changes. Lately, as I've been working through grief and watching my mother slowing deteriorate, new motivation and inspiration has come from an unexpected source. Listen as I share my current source of courage and bravery.
In episode 80, I asked the question, are you All In when it comes to recovery? In episode 81 we discussed some of the distractors that prevent us from being all in. After a long few weeks and a thorough self-evaluation, in this episode we discuss the 3 major indicators we can use to assess whether or not we are All In when it comes to recovery or any other major area of our life.
Worth Recovery has welcomed Shannon to our team who will be blogging her recovery journey with us. You can view her thoughts at: www.worthrecovery.com/blog
Intentional Recovery: Healing Happens On Purpose - is happening in Seattle, WA this July! More information and registration can be found at: www.worthrecovery.com/events
Action Items for Today:
Use the three indicators we discuss today to evaluate your own recovery.
1. Are you seeking appropriate accountability?
2. Are you connecting and staying connected to your own emotions?
3. Are you learning into the pain of your recovery so that you can fully heal?
Recently, as I've tried to acknowledge my own reality, I've been surprised by the variety of responses I've received. Whether it's friends, family, people in recovery, people out of recovery, as I've acknowledged the reality around me, I've been told to not think about it, ignore it, stop blaming, stop playing the victim. Society really teaches us not to acknowledge the difficult things in our lives. We're told not to dwell on the negative and not to focus on the difficult things. Dr. Bessel A. van der Kolk tells us: "As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself... The critical issues is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage." (Found in the Book: The Body Keeps The Score) Until we acknowledge our own reality - the past and the present, we can't heal or change it. In this episode I share four reasons why we don't acknowledgement things in our lives and the power acknowledgement gives us.
Homework: Identify two things in your life that you need to acknowledge that you have been avoiding. Write them down and share them with at least one person.
Sometimes we just miss our addiction. We know that the relationships we had and the behaviors we engaged in are unhealthy and they aren't serving us. However, they did serve a purpose in our life. They helped us escape and numb out from the chaos and unmanageability of our lives. Sometimes as we go through withdrawal and start to feel rather than escape, we miss those old relationships and behaviors. Prompted by a conversation with a friend in recovery, I wanted to share one of the things I did to get past a particularly difficult relationship.
Homework: Identify one thing you need to get past in your life. Maybe it is a relationship and maybe it is a behavior. Start thinking about the positive and negative aspects of the relationship. Write a letter you'll never send to help you complete that emotional connection and move past it.