Getting current is one of the first skills we can gain in recovery. In learning how to share our current reality, we learn how to accept where we are. Once we accept where we are, we can actually make changes. Change can only happen when we accept our current situation. Getting current is how we begin to do that. In this episode, I share the importance of getting current and the obligation we have to do that in healthy adult relationships. Also - I want to get current with you on what has been going on for me the last few months.
Continuing our deep dive into Step 10, Amy discusses the third concept from Step 10 - When we were wrong, we promptly admitted it. Step 10 is the time we really start to focus on the present moment and our present life. We have cleaned up a large portion of our past and are ready to really focus on the present. This means we become more and more aware of our actions in the moment and how they are impacting ourselves and those around us. Step 10 gives us tools to build awareness and how to mitigate the impact of our current actions. We stop fighting with people and we start admitting we are wrong.
Continuing our look at Step 10, Amy dives into what exactly “Personal Inventory” is and why we need it in our recovery process. The ability accurately self-appraise comes with practice and in time, yet it is a skill that can make the difference in the progress of our recovery.
Picking up the series on the 12 steps of recovery, Amy discusses Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. When we reach step 10 in our journey, we have done A LOT of work! So much work! And there can be a tendency to back down the intensity of the work that we have done. Step 10 is a call to action – listen to Amy describe some of the things we must Continue to do if we are going to continue down the road of recovery.
According to a recent poll, 9 out of 10 recovering addicts said that having a sponsor was ESSENTIAL to their sobriety and recovery. That was definitely the case for me. And just as important to my recovery has been BEING a sponsor. It has made me grow in ways I didn’t even know I needed to. In this episode I discuss 5 of the major gifts that being a sponsor gave to me and share with you an exciting new program from Worth Recovery: The Sponsor Academy.
Continuing the journey through the 12 steps, Amy concludes the discussion of Step 9 with this episode: It Works When I Work It. The SAA Green Book guides us through a 5 step process in how we actually go about making amends for the wrongs we have done. In this episode, Amy discusses this process and gives examples from her own experiences. Cleaning up the wreckage of our past is essential in order to move forward with a solid foundation.
Are you tired of saying you're sorry? Picking back up the series on the 12 steps of Recovery, Amy continues the discussion on Step 9: Made direct amends whenever possible, expect when to do so would injure them or others. Making amends is more than just apologies or saying we are sorry. It takes a complete attitude change. Listen to Amy share a portion of that changed attitude and how to approach amends from a helpful place.
In the continuation of the deep dive on the 12 steps of recovery, Amy explores how all of the work we have done up to this point prepares us for Step 9, for making amends. She discusses how amends is more than apologies, more than just saying we are sorry. In preparing to work step nine, we need to understand the principles behind all of the other steps as well as why apologies are insufficient.
Concluding the discussion on step 8, Amy shares one of the most influential experiences she has heard about forgiveness. Using the experience of Corrie ten Boom, related in her book "The Hiding Place", Amy shares why forgiveness is something we continually practice. And just as essential as forgiving others is learning and practicing forgiving ourselves. We just keep working at it and keep practicing until our higher power "changes the temperature of our heart."
In the continuation of the series on the 12 steps of recovery, Amy discusses one of the major principles she had to learn and practice while working Step 8: Letting Go. After offering examples of some of the things she had to learn to let go of, she offer 6 practical ways to help you begin to let go of things in your life as well.