Continuing our deep dive into Step 10, Amy discusses the third concept from Step 10 - When we were wrong, we promptly admitted it. Step 10 is the time we really start to focus on the present moment and our present life. We have cleaned up a large portion of our past and are ready to really focus on the present. This means we become more and more aware of our actions in the moment and how they are impacting ourselves and those around us. Step 10 gives us tools to build awareness and how to mitigate the impact of our current actions. We stop fighting with people and we start admitting we are wrong.
Everyone has a right to speak their truth. If others don't agree with you, that doesn't invalidate your truth. If you don't speak your truth, it becomes toxic sitting inside of you. These are three realities that I've experienced over the last several months. Especially the last one. When I don't speak the truth of what is going on inside of me and what I'm experiencing, I end up at the bottom of a shame pit I dug for myself. That is where I'm at today and that is why I need to speak that out loud. It helped me so much. I hope it helps you as well!
Did you know that Self-Care was finally added to the dictionary? You now have a legitimate resource to help you prioritize taking care of yourself. If it’s in the dictionary – it’s real! Now, we need to look at what the definition of self-care is and what areas of our life we need to maintain and upkeep ourselves. It’s so much more than a pedicure or a night out with friends. Listen to Amy discuss what she is doing on a daily basis and how to re-define self-care for yourself.
The Implementation Dip is a massive part of the change process. It has been studied in education for decades and is a massive part of the strategic planning. It shows us that when we first start to change and put in maximum effort, we aren’t going to see the result we want right away. In fact, we will see a dip in our performance and results. In this episode, Amy explains what the implementation dip is, how it effects us in recovery, and shares her methods for navigating this dip.
Links to additional insights about the Implementation Dip:
This one includes graphs for you to look at!!!
Continuing our look at Step 10, Amy dives into what exactly “Personal Inventory” is and why we need it in our recovery process. The ability accurately self-appraise comes with practice and in time, yet it is a skill that can make the difference in the progress of our recovery.
Marnie Feree is one of the pioneers of sex addiction recovery for women. Having been in addiction recovery for over 20 years - she was one of the first to ever show up in the 12-step circle as a woman. She conintues her work for women at Bethesda Workshops (http://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/), the first outpatient intensive program for women in sex addiction. In this episode, Marnie shares some of her own story and the amazing work she does for women and teens in recovery.
Picking up the series on the 12 steps of recovery, Amy discusses Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. When we reach step 10 in our journey, we have done A LOT of work! So much work! And there can be a tendency to back down the intensity of the work that we have done. Step 10 is a call to action – listen to Amy describe some of the things we must Continue to do if we are going to continue down the road of recovery.
We need our emotions. They keep us alive. They make the world worth living. If we couldn't feel pain, joy, fear, anger, or love what would we do with ourselves? We need them. AND we need to keep them in perspective and in their proper place. And that place is NOT in the driver's seat! Listen to Amy talk about where our emotions need to be - and how you can figure out who's driving your path.
In the conclusion of our series about the Karpman Drama Triangle we discuss how to GET OUT! There is preventative work we can do so we don't get sucked in. And there are things we can once we get inside to create space and help us navigate out of the triangle. You can change and learn to have healthy relationships! I hope this helps!