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![Episode 187: Trauma Responses](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog934091/187small_300x300.png)
22 hours ago
Episode 187: Trauma Responses
22 hours ago
22 hours ago
Welcome back, friends, to another episode of the Worth Recovery Podcast. I’m Amy, and today I’m sharing an episode I recorded two years ago about trauma responses. This episode is deeply personal, as it includes memories from my own childhood trauma. I’m sharing these experiences not to compare my trauma to anyone else’s but to help us all better understand how our pasts can impact our behaviors and lives, often without us realizing it.
Many of us enter recovery without fully understanding our histories or how they’ve shaped us. We might think we had a great childhood or struggle to remember parts of it at all. As I recount my experiences, I hope to offer insights into how trauma memories can resurface, sometimes many years into sobriety, as they did for me.
In this episode, I discuss a traumatic experience from my childhood that I’ve struggled to remember clearly. Through therapy, I’ve come to understand that different types of memory exist, including emotional and bodily memories, which can resurface unexpectedly. My journey has shown me that the process of uncovering and healing from trauma can be slow and nonlinear. It took me ten years of sobriety to begin to understand some of my own trauma.
I also talk about how our bodies can react to trauma in ways we might not expect. A routine dental visit unexpectedly triggered a traumatic memory for me, revealing a past assault I hadn’t fully understood. This experience emphasized the importance of having a supportive network and allowing ourselves time to heal and understand our trauma.
Finally, I remind listeners that it’s okay to take your time when sharing your own experiences. Vulnerability can be daunting, but sharing when you feel ready can be empowering and healing. I hope this episode helps you in your journey to understanding your own life and experiences.
![Episode 186: 11 Years Sober](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog934091/186small_300x300.png)
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
Episode 186: 11 Years Sober
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
In this episode of The Worth Recovery Podcast, I'm celebrating 11 years of sobriety since December 2, 2012. Reflecting on this milestone, I explore how crucial self-worth is in the recovery process. This episode, recorded six months ago, delves into my thoughts and experiences during my 11th year of sobriety, offering insights I've gained along the way.
Over the years, I’ve worked with many clients, witnessing how love and relationship addictions manifest uniquely for each person. Despite the differences, the core symptoms are often strikingly similar. I plan to dive deeper into these observations in future episodes, so stay tuned!
One key takeaway from my journey is that you cannot shame yourself into meaningful change; you can only love yourself into it. In 2011, I chose bottom and decided it was time to seek help. Finding a therapist and joining a 12-step group were pivotal steps for me. These experiences taught me three invaluable lessons: I was not alone, people understood and believed me, and shame was more of a hindrance than a help.
A significant turning point was when I realized that shame was blocking me from accepting positive feedback and love. My therapist’s analogy of having a bucket in my heart without a bottom really hit home. It made me see that self-worth and self-love were essential for holding onto the good in my life.
I began focusing on building my self-worth, understanding that I was worthy of recovery, love, and happiness. This shift allowed me to show up differently in my life, embracing my value and the positive changes that came my way.
One book that played a significant role in my journey was Brené Brown’s "I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t)." Brown’s message that everyone is worthy of love and belonging right now, without any prerequisites, profoundly impacted my recovery.
Today, I want to encourage you to recognize your inherent worth. Understand that you are not alone in your struggles. Recovery is possible, and embracing your self-worth is a vital step in that journey. Remember, you are Worth Recovery.
Thanks for tuning in, and I look forward to sharing more with you in the next episode. Until then, take care and keep believing in your worth!
Amy
![Episode 185: Engage - Discipline](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog934091/185small_300x300.png)
Tuesday Jul 09, 2024
Episode 185: Engage - Discipline
Tuesday Jul 09, 2024
Tuesday Jul 09, 2024
What role does Discipline play in your recovery? Do you need more discipline in order to get where you want to be?
In this episode, Amy discusses the three types of discipline needed for recovery - Preventative, Supportive, and Corrective. She offers tools and help for each type for your to implement in your personal recovery.
![Episode 184: Engage](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/934091/RECOVERING2_300x300.png)
Sunday Feb 18, 2024
Episode 184: Engage
Sunday Feb 18, 2024
Sunday Feb 18, 2024
Are you engaging in your recovery?
Every year I pick a word for the year that encapsulates my intentions for the next 12 months. This year, the word is Engage. Listen to how and why I chose the word, what it means to me, and what you can do to engage in your recovery on a deeper level!
![Episode 183: Holding Space](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog934091/Episode_183_6xn5cd_300x300.jpg)
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
Episode 183: Holding Space
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
The longer I've been a coach and therapist, the more I realize recovery has a whole vocabulary all it's own! I use words people have never heard or analogies most have never heard of. So many times people ask me to define certain ideas, concepts, or words and want to know how it might work.
In today's episode, I define the concept of "Holding Space" and discuss why we need it, how we do it, and what gets in the way. Have you ever considered if you can hold space for yourself or what that would look like? Do you know the breakdown of what happens when we hold space for others or they hold space for us? What gets in the way of this happening for you? By the end of the episode you'll know all the answers and more!
![Episode 182: Begin Again](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog934091/Episodes_171_-_190_tyvhpq_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Episode 182: Begin Again
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Over and over, we begin again.
I believe the practice of beginning again is one of the single most significant gifts you can give yourself. This is the work of recovery. After several months of no new episodes and a few years of false starts and on and off again engagement, I begin again. Isn't that what we all do? We re-engage. We start over. We begin anew. Hopefully you'll have the courage to do the same in whatever area you need to in your life.
And hopefully you'll allow me to do that same.
All my love!
Amy
![Episode 181: Can’t vs. Won’t](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/934091/RECOVERING2_300x300.png)
Wednesday Dec 07, 2022
Episode 181: Can’t vs. Won’t
Wednesday Dec 07, 2022
Wednesday Dec 07, 2022
Do you feel stuck? Sometimes, during my 10 year sobriety journey, I have felt very stuck and very upset about being stuck. In this episode, I talk about how sometimes we keep ourselves stuck. Not all the time, but sometimes we are our worst enemy in what we are willing to do for our own recovery. You're not stuck because you can't, you're stuck because you won't.
![Episode 180: Believing is Seeing - 10 Years Sober](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/934091/RECOVERING2_300x300.png)
Friday Dec 02, 2022
Episode 180: Believing is Seeing - 10 Years Sober
Friday Dec 02, 2022
Friday Dec 02, 2022
Today, December 2, 2022, I celebrate 10 years sober. In this episode I talk about some of the thinking that had to change for me to achieve this accomplishment and how believing is seeing when it comes to our recovery.
![Episode 179: Worth Reading - The Four Agreements](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/934091/RECOVERING2_300x300.png)
Wednesday Feb 23, 2022
Episode 179: Worth Reading - The Four Agreements
Wednesday Feb 23, 2022
Wednesday Feb 23, 2022
Continuing our Worth Reading series, I share one of the books that was fundamental to my mindset work. I was struggling with my people pleasing behaviors when my therapist recommended this book. In this episode, I share the pieces of this book that had the most influence on me.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
![Episode 178: Dimensions of Courtship - Part 2](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/934091/RECOVERING2_300x300.png)
Wednesday Feb 16, 2022
Episode 178: Dimensions of Courtship - Part 2
Wednesday Feb 16, 2022
Wednesday Feb 16, 2022
In this second part, we continue our discussion about the 12 dimensions of courtship including intimacy, touching, foreplay, intercourse, commitment, and renewal. These later stages of courtship are some of the hardest things we do in relationships.
These dimensions come from "Facing the Shadow" a workbook on sex addiction from Dr. Patrick Carnes.