Episodes
Tuesday Dec 04, 2018
Episode 143: Gaslighting, Part 2
Tuesday Dec 04, 2018
Tuesday Dec 04, 2018
Let's keep talking gaslighting!! In this episode we will continue our conversation about what gaslighting is, how you know if that is happening to you, and how to get out!! That is the most important - how you get out of this situation.
Tuesday Nov 13, 2018
Episode 141: Crab Mentality in Recovery
Tuesday Nov 13, 2018
Tuesday Nov 13, 2018
Do you ever feel like everyone is pulling you down or holding you back? Yeah - crabs do that. Learn what crab mentality is and how it shows up in recovery as Amy shares some of her crab moments. Let's be builders!
Friday Nov 09, 2018
Episode 140: Filling in Your Foundation
Friday Nov 09, 2018
Friday Nov 09, 2018
Every semester I give the same "speech" to my math students as we begin class together. This fall, as I was sharing it again, it hit me just how recovery minded the whole thing is! Hard to believe I didn't catch that before. I share it with you to help you build hope for the big task that is recovery and as insight into what exactly we are all working to recover from!
Tuesday Nov 06, 2018
Episode 139: Getting Current
Tuesday Nov 06, 2018
Tuesday Nov 06, 2018
Getting current is one of the first skills we can gain in recovery. In learning how to share our current reality, we learn how to accept where we are. Once we accept where we are, we can actually make changes. Change can only happen when we accept our current situation. Getting current is how we begin to do that. In this episode, I share the importance of getting current and the obligation we have to do that in healthy adult relationships. Also - I want to get current with you on what has been going on for me the last few months.
Tuesday Aug 07, 2018
Episode 137: Speaking the Truth
Tuesday Aug 07, 2018
Tuesday Aug 07, 2018
Everyone has a right to speak their truth. If others don't agree with you, that doesn't invalidate your truth. If you don't speak your truth, it becomes toxic sitting inside of you. These are three realities that I've experienced over the last several months. Especially the last one. When I don't speak the truth of what is going on inside of me and what I'm experiencing, I end up at the bottom of a shame pit I dug for myself. That is where I'm at today and that is why I need to speak that out loud. It helped me so much. I hope it helps you as well!
Wednesday Jul 25, 2018
Episode 136: Redefining Self-Care
Wednesday Jul 25, 2018
Wednesday Jul 25, 2018
Did you know that Self-Care was finally added to the dictionary? You now have a legitimate resource to help you prioritize taking care of yourself. If it’s in the dictionary – it’s real! Now, we need to look at what the definition of self-care is and what areas of our life we need to maintain and upkeep ourselves. It’s so much more than a pedicure or a night out with friends. Listen to Amy discuss what she is doing on a daily basis and how to re-define self-care for yourself.
Friday Jul 13, 2018
Episode 135: The Implementation Dip
Friday Jul 13, 2018
Friday Jul 13, 2018
The Implementation Dip is a massive part of the change process. It has been studied in education for decades and is a massive part of the strategic planning. It shows us that when we first start to change and put in maximum effort, we aren’t going to see the result we want right away. In fact, we will see a dip in our performance and results. In this episode, Amy explains what the implementation dip is, how it effects us in recovery, and shares her methods for navigating this dip.
Links to additional insights about the Implementation Dip:
This one includes graphs for you to look at!!!
http://www.saspa.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Fullan_The_Six_Secrets_of_Change-1.pdf
http://www.ghaea.org/files/IowaCoreCurriculum/Module1/Mod1-FullanChangeLeaderArticle.pdf
Tuesday Jun 05, 2018
Episode 130: Courage to Take The Wheel: Who's Driving Part 1
Tuesday Jun 05, 2018
Tuesday Jun 05, 2018
We need our emotions. They keep us alive. They make the world worth living. If we couldn't feel pain, joy, fear, anger, or love what would we do with ourselves? We need them. AND we need to keep them in perspective and in their proper place. And that place is NOT in the driver's seat! Listen to Amy talk about where our emotions need to be - and how you can figure out who's driving your path.
Friday Jun 01, 2018
Episode 129: Say No to the Drama! Part 3: Getting Out
Friday Jun 01, 2018
Friday Jun 01, 2018
In the conclusion of our series about the Karpman Drama Triangle we discuss how to GET OUT! There is preventative work we can do so we don't get sucked in. And there are things we can once we get inside to create space and help us navigate out of the triangle. You can change and learn to have healthy relationships! I hope this helps!
Resource links:
https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/
https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/pdf/thenewdramatriangles.pdf
https://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/
https://lindagraham-mft.net/triangle-victim-rescuer-persecutor-get/
https://pro.psychcentral.com/recovery-expert/2016/01/breaking-out-of-the-drama-triangle/
Tuesday May 22, 2018
Episode 127: Say No To the Drama, Part 2
Tuesday May 22, 2018
Tuesday May 22, 2018
In the continuation of the drama series, I discuss how amazingly quickly we can shift between roles on the triangle. It is SO CRAZY! We all have our favorite chair, our gateway into the drama. However, we don't stay there. We never stay there. Using several personal and other examples, I share with you just how quickly we can make ourselves sick on the cyclone of drama as we ping around from corner to corner. You'll want to get off! I promise!