It's a new year, it's close to my sobriety anniversary, and it's my birthday! All these things happen within a few weeks of each other. This provides a great opportunity to evaluate my "bottom line" behaviors, or my sobriety definition, or my Level 4 behaviors, or whatever it is that you call the things you don't do anymore!
Many times, at the beginning of recovery, we're not sure exactly what we need to do in order to get sober. We're not sure what counts or doesn't count as a slip or a relapse. The reality is that you need to make that determination. As I just celebrated my 7 year sobriety anniversary, I thought it was a good time to evaluate my Level 4 behaviors. In this episode, I walk you through the tool I've created and use with my coaching clients to define my sobriety and how that has evolved over time.
Download the worksheet here!
You've heard the phrase - If it's worth doing, it's worth doing well. And while that applies in almost all cases, I also think if it's worth doing, it's worth doing poorly. In this episode I'll give you some examples of things worth doing, even if done poorly. And hopefully, give you some encouragement to get you through.
Jackie and I are EXCITED about what we are doing with One Layer Deeper (1LD). Are you looking to go one layer deeper in your recovery? Then maybe one of our intensives or webinars is right for you! In this episode we talk about how our family of origin contributes so much to our relational template. This template is the foundation from which we operation. It is the template for how we engage with others around us. When this relational template is damaged, it takes hard work to change it and thus dramatically transform our relationships. You can do it! We want to help!
Telling our story is hard and scary. Publishing it for anyone to read is a whole different level. In this episode I interview Erica Garza, author of "Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction". Her new book tells about her experiences in her own life. You'll love hearing her story.
During the month of July we celebrate Independence Day in the United States. Amy shares her feelings on declaring her independence from addiction and how that has impacted her life. Celebrating the day you declare independence is just as important as celebrating the day you won your independence, your sobriety date. What victories can you celebrate today?
When my nephew told me, "Adults are not to be trusted", it broke my heart. I hurt for him and his current reality AND I hurt for the feeling of familiarity I felt when he said that. Trust is a difficult thing. Learning to trust ourselves and to keep our word is an essential step in recovery. In this episode, I share some of the ways I've learned to be better at this thing we call honesty.
Continuing this series from Episode 078, Megan and I finish our discussion about our Help Wanted ads. Moving Megan across the country was a jumbled bag of emotions. It was so fun to spend that time with her, Scott and Bronx. It was so fun to be on the road and drive and see new places! It was so hard to leave her there and fly home alone. In this continuation of our interview, we discuss what makes our relationship work including, our likes and dislikes, our confidence in meeting our own needs, and in our relationship skills.
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Homework: Identify two characteristics of relationships that you need. Do you have those? How can you implement them better in your current relationships? If you need a new relationship, write your own help wanted ad and share it below!!
With all the recent media coverage on rape and rape culture, Amy explores the idea of consent with CSAT therapist Jackie Pack. Jackie will be speaking and sharing her expertise at "Engaged In The Struggle," the upcoming Worth Recovery event in January. Listen to this great interview about what consent really means and how we get it all wrong.
Thoughts from Amy's car continues with an episode about preparing for the holidays. Amy shares how unvoiced expectations are just resentment waiting to happen.
On the way back from visiting with her mom, Amy shares some of the raw emotion around death, addiction, fantasy, and recovery.